Love Language?
What is the difference between...
"Love me in a way that I recognize"
and
"Love me the way I want to be loved"
...I think they are exactly the same am I wrong?
"Love me in a way that I recognize"
and
"Love me the way I want to be loved"
...I think they are exactly the same am I wrong?
posted by SLUMP FACADE at 9:15:00 PM
Interesting:
Love me in a way that I recognize can be how the person is used to love being displayed to them. It may be kisses hello and good bye at each encounter. Various displays of affection that show love and commitment or special things between just the two that are unique to their relationship.
Love me the way that I want to be loved may mean one person giving passion where there was none or in a different way, taking time or effort that they many not have taken before. Showing patience and compassion when those are not their strong suits. It means giving a little bit more effort to not just understand what the other person wants, but to also give it to them.
Both require some personal commitments to communication, patience, and self sacrifice to make sure that the requests are both being conveyed properly, heard completely, comprehended, so that they may be executed correctly. Personal fulfillment may also mean having to request the same in return.
Interesting question. Strong statements. Powerful requests. Sorry if I got too into the response. I know having the desire for both.
yes, you are wrong.
Just because I recognize something doesn't mean that it is love. It could be someone doing all the right things to make me feel loved even though they really don't love me. Just because something is familiar doesn't mean that it's real
So I agree with fallen...No they are not the same to me!
I think they're the same as well.
I think it is possible to recognize that another person is displaying their love and affection. That does not mean that the person receiving the love wants it. They may want another type of love or love in a different form. I think that Humans are very capable of perceiving the intentions of others. Just because someone loves me and I know they do because of certain things that they do or don't do, say or don't say, etc - it doesn't mean that their actions represent the type of love that I want to receive.
Long story short - the two are different.
Isha's explanation is a really good one. I think the first is something one can ask for. The second, not so much. For me, that statement speaks to the depth of feeling and there's no way to control that.
totally different